You know, it wasn’t too long ago (maybe about 30 years or so) that a lot of brides picked up the entire tab for their bridesmaids.
In other words, if they asked you to be in their wedding, they purchased the dress, shoes and jewelry themselves. This was because, to them, it was simply an honor that you agreed to be a part of their special day in the first place.
Most of us have probably not witnessed this kind of wedding gift. As a matter of fact, many of us can attest to the fact that we have a couple of grand’s worth of satin and tulle hanging up in our storage closet.
However, when it comes to exploring the question of who should pay for the bridesmaids’ hair and makeup, in going along with the theme of yesteryears, honestly, the answer should simply be the bride.
The Bride Should Pay, Will She?Now, if you’re a bride-to-be reading this and you’re turning up your nose a bit due to all of the other costs that are incurring as you’re planning your big day, it does need to go on record that there is no real “traditional protocol” on these kinds of matters.
No, you probably won’t find in a wedding planning etiquette book stating that this is something that you have to do, but let’s take a moment to consider how much bridesmaids are already spending.
As we previously mentioned, they have to purchase their dress, their shoes and their jewelry. If they live out of town, they either have to rent a car or purchase a plane ticket along with a hotel room. Although a lot of bridesmaids amazingly don’t do this part (although it is a thoughtful gesture), they have to purchase either bridal shower or wedding gift (if not both).
Plus, if they’re good bridesmaids and they remember that the operative part of the word is not “bride” but “maid”, they’re also spending 24-48 hours (or so) at your beck and call.
To do all of that and then still try and figure out how to shell out the cash for hair and makeup? Actually, that could be enough to cause some of the people that you asked to be a bridesmaid to respectfully decline the invitation simply because they can’t afford it.
Bridal Hair & Makeup Party
So yes, it is a good thing to hire someone to come to do their hair and makeup for your wedding day.
Some brides share the beauty team that they hired for themselves with their bridal party, while others hire someone in addition to their own hair and makeup people.
It’s usually best to go with the latter option, so that you don’t find yourself having to wait while your bridesmaids are getting beautified.
Let Them Do It Themselves
Of course, if you just can’t reconcile the additional expense, you can always put in your wedding day itinerary that you would like them to come with their hair and makeup already done. This has a few bonuses to it as well.
First, it won’t cost you any money. Secondly, there aren’t too many women that don’t care about their appearance (especially when they’re going to be taking pictures) and so you know they will put their best foot forward. And finally, it could save a lot of time.
It requires a lot more effort to create a hairstyle and apply cosmetics than to put on a gown. If they come to the venue with the first part already done, then putting on their dress should take no more than 10-15 minutes.
Either way, remember that it’s your wedding day. Figure out what will make you the least stressed and go with that option. A calm bride is the best choice for everyone!
Sarah Danielson is a contributing writer for 983wedding.com where you can find a large variety of wedding invitations along with planning tips and other great resources for brides.
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