Once you and your man decide to get married, there are a lot of issues that need to be decided. These can often cause little skirmishes, especially when dealing with where people sit, what everyone will eat and who said what to who’s mom.
One of the more divisive aspects of the wedding might also be the bachelor party. It’s your groom’s last big blow-out party, so of course all the plans and details should be up to him and his friends. But let’s face it, ladies – we all know you too well. You’re going to try to keep an eye on him and his friends any way possible.
From the very beginning, bachelor parties have been a way for men to toast their friends and celebrate the end of their bachelor life. The parties have become quite creative over the years. Unfortunately, they’ve also tended to get more out of hand as well.
Recent bachelor party debauchery has even contributed to numerous celebrity break-ups. But the most important thing to remember is that your husband-to-be is not a celebrity — so don’t expect him to get as out of control as they do.
Here are five things that you, as the bride, should keep in mind about your man’s bachelor party.
- It’s never like the movies Hollywood has turned the bachelor party into a stereotypical movie cliché. But regardless of the different shenanigans you might hear about or see on the big screen, they’re never as exciting as Hollywood makes them out to be. So don’t bother watching The Bachelor Party or The Hangover with anything other than a grain of salt. Most men wish their bachelor party could be this exciting.
- He won’t do anything he’ll regret
- Don’t worry about him spending money
- He’ll be tired afterwards
- Make sure he knows you missed him
This never happens…
He’s still engaged, after all, so trust him to no get out of control. His friends might be a different story, but no one that cares about the groom will ever let him misbehave. So don’t waste time worrying about what he may or may not be doing — it’s just not worth your time.
No matter how generous he is, the groom shouldn’t have to pay for anything during his bachelor party. It’s his last night out as one of the guys, so his friends will be sure to take good care of him. Certain exceptions can be made, of course, especially if the celebration spans a weekend or longer. But for the most part, you shouldn’t bother to worry about whether or not he’ll blow the honeymoon savings.
This is particularly important for weekend excursions or trips to Vegas. Sleep is hard to come by on a bachelor party, thanks especially to the wide variety of energy drinks available on every corner in the country. I’ve even known men to force coffee down the grooms’ throat in an effort to keep the party going on an overnight trip. I’ve even seen one best man bring one of his own coffee makers along for the trip, just to make sure they have it when they need a pick-me-up.
After a long weekend and possibly a few adult cocktails, your groom-to-be is going to come home tired and possibly hurting. Rather than badgering him with questions about what he did, instead just let me know you missed him. It’s always nice to come home to someone excited to see you. You don’t have to do anything crazy, but if you really want to make an impression, have dinner ready or warm cookies fresh from the oven. That’s the sort of thing that reminds him how wonderful his new life with you is going to be.
This article was written exclusively for STL Weddings by Mike Tennant. Mike is a freelance writer and columnist from Orange County, CA. Mike currently works with Air & Water Inc., where he helps newlyweds pick out their first wine cooler and makes other home appliance shopping exciting.
